New Year, New Opportunities!

Hello 2014 cradlerockingmama

Hello, 2014!

New Year’s Day usually means lots of “pie crust promises” (to quote Mary Poppins). Easily made, easily broken! It’s a time of Resolutions and a determination to Make Changes.

That’s not so easy as an FPIES family; we can determine to change things all we like, but until our little one’s bodies can handle foods there isn’t much we can do. We just have to stay the course and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

That’s kind of refreshing, in a way, don’t you think?

No great pressure to overhaul our entire way of life in the pursuit of some lofty goal. No major lifestyle changes (with the accompanying guilt when we inevitably slip up).

Just keep your eye on the ball, and keep working your way towards the goal post.

Tomorrow I’m going to talk a bit about how Darrel and I are re-thinking our approach to food trials, but other than that, my personal and family plans for 2014 are pretty much the same as last year: keep working towards a healthy, well-rounded diet for my entire family, and keep us all from getting sick/reacting as much as possible.

As for writing/professional goals, though, well, I have some exciting things heading this way!

For starters, Darrel and I conceived of a project that has me so excited I’m tingling! We hope to have the first part of it unveiled in the next week, so stay tuned for more details!

Here on Cradle Rocking Mama, I’m going to start a new weekly series, and I’m making some changes to the way my blog is formatted to make it easier to seek out recipes by ingredients, dietary restriction, or other categorical searching.

I’m in the middle of writing a book to help all food allergy families deal with emergencies, and am in the early stages of creating my first ever eCourse!

I can’t wait to get all these things out there into the world to help out food allergy families (or, frankly, ANY family that could benefit)!!

None of those are really goals: they’re Projects I’m Working On and I hope beyond hope that I have them out in the first quarter of the year.

Whenever they’re ready, though, you’ll be the first to know!

My biggest goal of the year, in all that I do on this blog, is to continue to provide educational, useful content to YOU. Everything I do will be looked at through that lens. So if there is anything that you’d like to see here, please don’t hesitate to ask! That being said..

Here’s an important thing that I need your  help with. 

I have lots of subscribers to my blog (thank you!) but I have a great many readers who come to me via Facebook and my Fan Page. That’s great, too! Except

Facebook has come out with a new stance: organic content from fan pages is going to decrease over time…unless the host pays Facebook to share the content!

In other words, when I share a link on CradleRockingMama’s Facebook page (a link to free content I’m giving to you), the only way most of  you will see it is if I PAY Facebook money to do so!

It’s Facebook’s prerogative to do this, but frankly, I don’t have the funds to pay them every day of the week to get my blog posts out into the world.

So if you haven’t done so already, I’d encourage you to sign up to CradleRockingMama via email. (I won’t spam you, all you’ll get is an email when I have a new blog post up! I also won’t sell your email, give it away, or anything else remotely nefarious!)

Enter your email address at the top of the page where it says “Don’t Miss A Thing”, and you’ll be kept in the loop with blog posts, AND with all of the other exciting things happening this year!

As a small conclusion to this oh-so-excited 2014 announcement post, I have a little somethin’ to say to 2014:

Hey, 2014! It may be presumptuous of me to do this, but I’m going to tell you what I want from you this year:

2014, I want you to be the year that Zac outgrows FPIES. 

Barring that, I want you to be the year that he gets at least one new safe food per month.

Everything else is icing on the cake, m’kay?

That’s not too much to ask, is it, 2014?

Nah…didn’t think so!

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What do you want from 2014? Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog! 

Thank You!

Thank You cradlerockingmama.com

On this last day of 2013, I want to take a moment to say THANK YOU.

Thank you for going on this journey with us.

Thank you for reading the good, bad, and bizarre in our world.

Thank you for trying my recipes and giving me such great feedback on them.

Thank you for becoming a little community; a little safe haven of understanding in this crazy food world.

Just…Thank You!

In January of 2013, I had an average of 63 readers per day. Today, I have an average of 353 readers per day!

That might not seem like a lot of growth for your average blog, but, let’s face it, our story isn’t for the faint of heart! It takes a special kind of person to read about sick children, bloody poop, diarrhea, and vomiting! Cradle Rocking Mama just isn’t going to have the widespread appeal of, say, Mommy Shorts.

And that’s okay! I think gaining three hundred readers per day over a year is FANTASTIC growth for this sort of story!

While I would love to get such a huge readership on my blog that I could charge advertisers mucho dinero to advertise on my blog and have such a large following that at the mere mention of a possible book Amazon.com would shut down, the fact is, that as long as I’m telling our story authentically, honestly, and shamelessly, I am helping people.

Since that was the biggest motivator for starting this blog in the first place, I have to say I’m thrilled with what the numbers are saying about 2013.

Three hundred and fifty-odd people per day are learning what we’re learning. You’re maybe – hopefully – getting the occasional “a-ha!” moment from something my family has gone through or tried, and perhaps finding a recipe that fills a big, sorely missed void in your newly restrictive recipe book.

And while y’all are all getting that from me, I’m getting something wonderful from all of you.

Purpose. Validation. A reason to “put on my big girl panties and get on with it”.

I love my children (I think that’s obvious by now!) and they do  give me amazing strength, but sometimes, you need to know you’re not insane. You need to know you’re not alone. You need to know you’re doing okay.

You, my dear readers, do that for me. Just by being there.

So for all of these things and more, THANK YOU!

Now, go have some fun this New Year’s Eve, and get ready for 2014! I have some great things in the works for Cradle Rocking Mama and I can’t wait to share them with you!

Let’s have a fabulous, food-passing,

outgrowing FPIES year!

Mesenteric Lymphadenitis, aka How To Make Parents Insane In One Day

Mesenteric Lymphadenitis aka How to Make Parents Insane In One Day cradlerockingmama.com

Weekend before last, Jed came down with a mild form of the stomach bug that has been working its way through the GI system of America this month. Because I knew about the bug, I didn’t go to the doctor (or even call the doctor) when he turned up with symptoms; we just made sure he drank plenty of water and kept an eye on him.

He was really fine! He did have bad diarrhea, but he drank, ate, and behaved perfectly normal. So we didn’t worry too much.

Thursday morning, however, Jed woke up and refused to eat breakfast. I attributed that to the fact that it was the Overnight Crockpot Oatmeal Breakfast Bake, a new dish, and maybe he didn’t actually like it very much.

However, he didn’t (as he usually does when he doesn’t like what I’m serving) ask for anything different for breakfast.

About an hour after breakfast, I went into the living room to see that Jed had laid down on the couch and pulled the blanket over himself. Tucked in so nicely, he was laying perfectly still, watching TV.

Y’all, that’s not normal for Jed. He does NOT sit still, let alone lay down during the day!

I checked on him, and he felt warm. A quick temperature check verified: 102.2 degrees.

Uh-oh.

When I asked him where he had an owie, he said “in mine tummy”. That’s what he’s been saying all week, though, so I couldn’t really extrapolate much more from his claims. Yes, his tummy has hurt all week and he has told me so; why does that suddenly mean a fever and lethargy/malaise?

Sick Kiddo on Couch cradlerockingmama

Both kids passed out on the couch – Jed because he’s sick, Zac because it is naptime.

I called his doctor, but had to leave a message.

(Oh, and break-your-heart here…Jed asked  me to call the doctor. After I did, I told him “OK, sweetie, I called the doctor. Now we just have to wait for her to call us back.” and he hugged my neck and moaned “Thank you!” Aw!)

Shortly after the doctor call, Jed suddenly asked for food! He wanted hot dogs (which are actually link sausages but he calls them hot dogs), so Darrel cooked up some hot dogs for him.

Normally Jed will eat 6-8 hot dogs in one sitting. He couldn’t even finish eating one on Thursday afternoon.

He also didn’t want to drink, and when he was ready to eat, he didn’t want to walk to the dining room. He asked us to pick him up and carry him from the couch to the dining room table chair.

Finally the nurse called back. At first, she was sort of “let’s just observe him for 24 hours and if he’s not better then he ought to be seen” but when I clarified that he’d already had the stomach bug for 6 days and the fever was a sudden addition, she audibly tensed up and said “How’s 3:30? Can you be here then?”

Uh-oh. Sure thing, ma’am.

So we loaded up the car and headed to the doctor.

In case I haven’t mentioned it lately, I LOVE our doctor. Actually, we now see a Nurse Practitioner at our pediatrician’s office. I *do* really like our actual doctor, but having spent so much time this last year seeing our NP, I must say, I just love her! (This is a nice change, since normally “I Hate Doctors” is sort of my motto.)

When we got to the office, the receptionist, nurse and NP all took one look at Jed and said “Oh, yeah, he’s very sick”- it was that  apparent that something was wrong with him. After a fairly quick head-to-toe exam (after, of course, the verbal “tell me what’s going on” interview), our NP said she really wanted him to be taken for a CT scan.

It looked to her like appendicitis.

Say what? I thought appendicitis was something older kids and adults got? I’ve never heard of a 3 year old having appendicitis!

That’s right, the NP said. It’s really rare for children as young as Jed to have appendicitis, but that’s what his symptoms and physical exam indicate he has. The CT will rule it out or confirm it.

Code phrase there? REALLY RARE. If it’s “really rare”, odds are, that answers the question of what my kids have.

My boys are skilled, folks! We don’t get common colds here…we get appendicitis! (laugh with me, so I don’t cry, okay?)

She also wanted us to get some acetaminophen for Jed to take to help with the fever and pain. So we had to get that compounded. A quick stop by the compounding pharmacy (well, not terribly quick, it took an hour) and we had safe acetaminophen and were on our way to the hospital.

Checking in at the hospital. Darrel was cancelling weekend plans while we waited.

Checking in at the hospital. Darrel was cancelling weekend plans while we waited.

I have to say, the hospital actually moved pretty fast on things…but it just seems like everything in a hospital takes forever. We were there, checking in at 5:45 p.m. The blood work our NP had requested was drawn at 6:30 p.m. We were taken back by the CT people at 7:00 p.m.

Now, those of you who have had a CT scan before will already know what happens during this process. Those of you, like me, who have never previously had the pleasure, here’s a little education.

In order to get a CT scan, they have you drink a barium drink that creates “contrast” in your body for the scan to pick up on. You have to drink this nastiness over about a 2 hour period so it has time to work through your system.

Before we even begin, I’m sitting there going “Um, what’s in that drink? He can’t have dairy, egg, soy or fructose.”

To their credit, the techs were very good about bringing me every single option they had available for him to drink so I could read the ingredients. In the end, every single option they had was no good for him. If we wanted him diagnosed properly, we were going to have to fructose our son.

So we picked the one that had a fructose ingredient listed as the last ingredient on the ingredient list rather than one of the first ingredients and hoped that would be okay.

(I had asked on the FructMal boards about this when we first heard about the drink; after we were done with Jed’s CT scan I saw more people chime in saying that the doctor could do an ultrasound to diagnose appendicitis, but the information came too late to help us that night.)

As Jed began drinking his icky drink, I started thinking…ok. IF this comes back with evidence of appendicitis, they’re going to basically send him off to surgery right away, right? Which means at least an overnight stay in the hospital, right? And I haven’t eaten since lunch time, nor has Zac or Darrel, and we can’t just go down to the nearest Taco Bell and grab some grub.

If I’m going to go home and get supplies, I need to do it, like, NOW. While he’s drinking this drink.

So Zac and I haul-heinie from the hospital back home, while Darrel stays at the hospital with Jed.

We get home, I race through the house like a madwoman throwing random “I think we might need that” stuff into my suitcase, I grab some food from the fridge and load up my work cooler with food for me and Zac, and as I’m ready to get back in the car and leave, Zac starts losing his freaking mind!

I check the clock and – dang – he’s ready to nurse. It’s a 40 minute drive back to the hospital, at bedtime, and he’s ready to eat NOW. UGH!

So I sat down to nurse him, staring anxiously at the clock and sending text messages to Darrel all the while, until he finally finished and we could go. We hauled-heinie back to the hospital, but we missed being there for the actual CT scan. Instead, we got to wait with him until the scan had been read.

By this time, my parents and Aunt had gotten to the hospital. So our little waiting room was very cramped. I held Jed while Darrel ate, and the family kept an eye on Zac as he toddled around, far too wide awake for over two hours after bedtime!

Sick Jed wanted to be wrapped up in Daddy's coat because he was "so cold" otherwise.

Sick Jed wanted to be wrapped up in Daddy’s coat because he was “so cold” otherwise.

Zac grinning at the baby in the mirror. Note the gigantic "mom purse" in the chair. Ugh.

Zac grinning at the baby in the mirror. Note the gigantic “mom purse” in the chair. Ugh.

Finally I got a phone call from our NP. They had read the CT scan, and Jed DID NOT have appendicitis.

As she tells me this, I’m looking down at my son; my 100-miles-a-minute, rambunctious, charming son, who has been laying as still as possible, running a fever, barely moving or talking all day and is quite possibly the sickest kid I’ve ever seen in my life, and I just can’t believe what she’s saying.

Instead, he has something called Mesenteric Lymphadenitis. The lymph nodes around his stomach are swollen and inflamed (technically, it’s the lymph nodes where his intestines attach to his bowels) from an infection.

When Mesenteric Lymphadenitis actually causes symptoms, most of the time it mimics appendicitis. But it doesn’t require surgery; in fact, it usually will just go away on its’ own over time.

She wanted us to take antibiotics, however, because while the infection that caused it could be either viral or bacterial, if we waited long enough to rule out a virus and he actually had a bacterial infection, that would be long enough for the bacteria to create a septic infection in his little body (which could be deadly).

So we were told to go on home, give him acetaminophen, antibiotics, and warm compresses on his tummy, and hopefully by Monday he’d be mostly back to normal.

I felt like I had a case of whiplash! To go from thinking my son had appendicitis and was headed for emergency surgery to “go home and he’ll be fine” was a little hard to wrap my brain around!

Worse, though, the car ride home he just seemed SO sick, and getting him ready for bed he cried and cried in pain…but the next morning?

HE. WAS. FINE.

It was like the previous day had never happened!

He had an appetite, drank a ton of milk, was chipper and smiling and bouncing and playing and giggling and HEY – WHERE ARE THE CAMERAS? ‘CAUSE I KNOW I’M BEING PUNKED RIGHT NOW!

Seriously, y’all. I didn’t think a human being could go from being perfectly normal to “looks like I’m gonna die” to perfectly normal again that quickly!

Un.Be.Lievable.

The worst part of Friday was the residual fructose problems; he had a horrible poop and was mildly belligerent and argumentative all day long. Otherwise, Jed was just fine.

Darrel and I are exhausted and a little shell-shocked.

Zac is still Mr. Happy, completely oblivious to the drama that unfolded around him.

Why do all the weird things happen to us? 

One little perk of FPIES, though: thanks to all my medical research for FPIES, I’ve been able to say the words “Mesenteric Lymphadenitis” without getting my tongue or brain twisted into knots since the NP first spelled it out for me. Prior to Zac, medical-speak made my head want to explode. Now, I’ve been schooled.

So…how was YOUR weekend?

Frugal Friday – Regift Your Kids Presents To Them

 Frugal Friday - Regift Your Kids Presents - To Them cradlerockingmama.com

Another Christmas has come and gone, and I think we can all agree on one thing: if you have kids, right now it looks like a toy store vomited all over your house!

Despite lack of funds and/or desire to keep the gift-giving reined in, the truth is that you can’t really control the gifts other people give your kids.

So when extended family “go big or go home”, there’s really nothing that can be done beyond smiling and being grateful for their generosity.

Oh, and to do today’s Frugal Friday tip: snatch some of those gifts from the kids before they play with them and stick ’em somewhere safe to be re-gifted back to the same child on their next birthday – or even next Christmas!

Here are my guidelines on how to do this and who to do it for:

  • The younger the child, the better. They have shorter attention spans and likely won’t notice a couple of missing gifts.
  • For older kids, grab a gift they like but aren’t over the moon about the second they open a gift that makes them go “squee!!” They’re less likely to remember the likeable gift gone MIA after the joy of the thrill gift.
  • Don’t even try  it with the Big Gift.
  • Pay close attention to awesome gifts that are a little outside the optimal age bracket. Those Legos meant for 4 year olds are a choking hazard to your 19 month old, making it a prime candidate to re-gift at a later date.

Think this sounds mean? Scrooge-like?

Maybe.

I think it’s using your resources wisely. This year we could only afford to give the boys 3 presents. Total. Not each. TOTAL. Who KNOWS what our finances will look like when their birthdays roll around!

At their age, my boys won’t notice a few missing toys from their Christmas spoils. Especially since some of their favorite things to play with are empty paper towel tubes and bubble wrap. They’re not hard to please!

So saving a few gifts from Christmas for a later date is being smart. Frugal. “Making it do”, from the saying.

It’s a few days after Christmas by now, so maybe this tip is too late for you. But maybe your kids are young enough that even now, you could tidy up the living room while they nap today and selectively store a few things for later.

Worst case scenario? They remember and scream for the toy back. Simple solution: “Oh, sorry honey! Mommy moved that toy while she cleaned. I’ll go get it for you.” And you do.

You just don’t get the other things you stored away unless they bring it up. In a few months, they’ll have NEW TOYS!!

Hope that helps!

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What do you think? Is re-gifting your kids own gifts back to them later on being mean or being brilliant?

Overnight Crockpot Oatmeal Banana Bake – Vegan & Gluten-Free

Overnight Crockpot Vegan & Gluten Free Oatmeal Banana Bake cradlerockingmama.com

Do you know what the two most delicious words in the English language are?

CROCKPOT BREAKFAST.

Do you know why?

It allows you to NOT use your brain first thing in the morning! I don’t know about you, but I am not  a morning lark by nature.

Pre-FPIES and FructMal, I had a few overnight crockpot breakfasts that made life at 8:00 a.m. worth living.

I’d throw everything in the crockpot before bed, turn it on, and in the morning, breakfast was served, eaten, and cleaned up within an hour of our heads rising off the pillows.

It was glorious!

I lost all those recipes when FPIES and FructMal came into our lives, though, and have been forced to get up every morning and actually COOK before double digits on the hour register.

This stinks.

Consequently, I was thrilled when I discovered this recipe by Inspired Taste and knew I could make it a crockpot meal!

Beyond changing it to work in the crockpot, I obviously couldn’t do it as written; it calls for too many ingredients on our verboten list. It took a few attempts to get this right, but I have managed to create an overnight, crockpot breakfast bake that is allergy-friendly and delicious!

Here’s what you do:

Get your dry ingredients together. This would include the oatmeal, salt, cinnamon, baking powder, and optional add-ins (like nuts, raisins or chocolate chips). Mix them together well.

 

Dry ingredients

Dry ingredients

Get your wet ingredients together.

To start with, make yourself a chia ‘egg’. (For those that don’t know what I’m talking about, read up on it here.)

 

Chia 'Egg"

Chia ‘Egg”

Then grab your milk, maple syrup and vanilla. Mix all your wet ingredients together in a bowl.

 

Wet ingredients

Wet ingredients

Pour the wet ingredients into the dry ingredients, mix them together well, and set aside.

 

Everything mixed together

Everything mixed together

Go dust off your crockpot (hey, it’s not used to working at night!) and spray the inside with oil. Pour the ingredients into your crockpot; you may need to gently nudge some of the thicker bits around until the top is level.

 

Poured into the crockpot

Poured into the crockpot

Now go slice up a banana. I only had frozen bananas, so fresh or frozen would surely work fine. Slice it on an angle; this makes it prettier, but mostly it means fewer banana slices to deal with!

 

Sliced banana

Sliced banana

Lay the banana slices on the oatmeal mixture. If you stop right there, you run the risk of your bananas turning brown by morning. So take a spoon (or your finger – won’t tell) and press those banana slices down into the mix until they are completely covered. No brown bananas, now!

 

Pressing the banana slices into the mix

Pressing the banana slices into the mix

After the bananas are submerged

After the bananas are submerged

Now, let’s discuss the chocolate aspect of this recipe. If you don’t think chocolate would tickle your fancy, just skip on down. If, on the other hand, you think chocolate rules the universe (hello, friend!), here’s something for you to decide: if you have safe chocolate chips, do you want to add them at the beginning of the recipe to your dry ingredients? or do you want to sprinkle them over the top at the end?

That’s strictly a personal preference thing; it depends on if you like your chocolate bursts spread throughout or an even layer on top.

If, however, you don’t  have any safe chocolate chips, you could do what I did and use some of my homemade chocolate syrup as a drizzle over the top.

See?

 

Pretty with chocolate

Pretty with chocolate

Whether you use chocolate or not, at this point, you are officially done dumping things in the crockpot.

This needs to cook for 6 hours on low, so get out your timer (if you have a crockpot and don’t have a timer, you’re limiting yourself – go get one!) and set it to turn on 6 hours before you want to eat. Then turn the crockpot on to LOW (don’t set the timer and forget to turn on the crockpot! Ask me how I know this…hint: it involves tears.) and go to bed.

In the morning, you’ll wake up to this:

 

Meh...It doesn't look like so much in the crockpot come morning...

Meh…It doesn’t look like so much in the crockpot come morning…

...but WOW does it look good on a fork!!

…but WOW does it look good on a fork!!

Yum!!!

Now, you can get creative with this recipe!  You could add some raisins or other dried fruit instead of chocolate chips (or in addition), chopped up nuts, change up the spices, change up the fruit, whatever sounds good to you! But this is how I did it and it is YUM.

And it means that, at least for Jed and Darrel’s breakfast, I don’t have to cook in the morning every.single.day!

<Happy Dance Happy Dance>

So there you have it! An overnight breakfast that is hearty, filling, healthy, allergy friendly, and MOM FRIENDLY!

Enjoy!!

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OVERNIGHT CROCKPOT OATMEAL BANANA BAKE

– 2 c. oats
– 1 tsp. baking powder
– 1 tsp. cinnamon
– 1/2 tsp. salt
– 1/2 c. chopped walnuts, chocolate chips, raisins (or all!)

– 2 c. milk (I used cashew milk)
– 1/3 c. maple syrup
– 1 T. chia seeds + 3 T. hot water mixed (egg replacer)
– 2 tsp. vanilla

– 1 banana sliced

  1. Mix together your dry ingredients (this would include any optional ingredients you would like to add).
  2. Make up the chia egg.
  3. Mix together all the wet ingredients.
  4. Pour the wet ingredients into the dry ingredients and mix together well.
  5. Spray the inside of your crockpot with oil or non-stick spray; pour the ingredients into the crockpot.
  6. Slice the banana and lay the slices on top of the oatmeal mixture. Press down into the mixture gently until covered by the oatmeal mix.
  7. If you want to add chocolate at the end, drizzle chocolate chips or chocolate syrup on top of the recipe at this time.
  8. Put the lid on your crockpot, and set it up: Plug it in to the timer, set the timer to turn on 6 hours before you want to eat, turn the crockpot on to the LOW setting, and go to bed.
  9. Wake up and enjoy your delicious, ready-to-eat breakfast!

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In case you’d like to make the syrup for yourself, here’s the recipe:

Chocolate Syrup

– 1/2 c. maple syrup
– 3/4 c. water
– 3/4 c. + 2 T. unsweetened cocoa powder
– 1/8 tsp. salt
– 1 T. vanilla extract

  1. Mix the maple syrup and water in a pan; heat until simmering. Remove the pan from heat.
  2. Add the cocoa powder and salt and whisk until fully incorporated.
  3. Add the vanilla, whisk together well, and pour into a glass jar.
  4. Store in the fridge for up to 3 weeks.
  5. Enjoy the best chocolate syrup you’ve ever had!

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What would you add to your overnight breakfast oatmeal bake? Do you have any overnight crockpot breakfasts that rock your world? Do tell! (Seriously, I’m getting tired of spending the first 3 hours of my day cooking!)

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year

It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year cradlerockingmama.com

I had a whole big post written for today, talking about how Christmas is different for FPIES families. How we have to eschew certain traditions and alter others so that the Christmas’s we create for our kiddos don’t really resemble the ones we had when we were kids.

You know what, though? EVERY day is different for FPIES families. Every holiday is different. Talking about how Christmas isn’t going to live up to my own expectations somehow sounds more whiny than regularly pointing out the obvious life changes FPIES has brought on a day to day basis.

I wasn’t happy with that post. But I didn’t have a better alternative. 

Until I read Dani’s post at Cloudy, With a Chance of Wine yesterday: The day I knew Santa really existed. At the end of her sweet, funny post, she asks the simple question “When did you know Santa really existed?”

And I was taken back to my childhood…

Christmas at my house was always magical.

The weekend after Thanksgiving, we decorated the house. My parents bought a beautiful fake tree when I was a baby; it really was gorgeous, and when I eventually saw real trees decorated in people’s houses I was always happy we had our tree. It was perfect.

One reason we had a fake tree was because real trees require water, and water and electricity don’t mix. Underneath our perfect tree ran a special Christmas train that my Daddy and I had built. The flat cars had Christmas displays on them, the boxcars were decal-ed with Christmas motifs. The engine puffed real steam as it ran around the track.

Christmas just isn’t Christmas without trains under the tree.

Our tree had the perfect mix of ornaments. Special antiques from my great-grandmother, handmade ornaments my Mom made when my parents were poor newlyweds, ornaments I had made over the years, and special ornaments bought to commemorate events in our lives.

There was nothing “designed” about our tree, as so many think is necessary. It was very organically thrown together with a thread of our pasts woven into our present, telling our family story.

All the way up until I moved out of the house as an adult, I would often sit in the living room in the middle of the night, the only lights the glow from the Christmas tree, and savor the warmth and contentment the tree would give me.

My Mom and I would bake like mad-women for Christmas. Dozens of sugar cookie cut-outs, oatmeal raisin with cinnamon, homemade fudge, chocolate chip cookies, divinity and whatever else sounded good that year. We’d make pies and cakes, and the entire month of December was a dedicated feast of sweets and treats.

Every year I got a new Christmas dress to wear, and a new set of Christmas pajamas to wear on Christmas morning.

Christmas Eve we would go to the Midnight service at church. Growing up Methodist at a large church, the service would be filled with hundreds of people, and they really set the bar high for a Christmas Eve service.

Lights were down low, and most of the service was by candle light. We had a large pool to draw talent from; professional or student musicians occupied the choir and orchestra that performed. The music was divine – and I use that word deliberately.

I always felt as though I could FEEL God, Mary and Joseph in our musical communion…especially when the pipe organ played and the vibrations made my chest quiver.

I loved that service.

The part of my childhood Christmas’s that really stands out as a remarkable testimony to the awesome parents I have, though, are the stories of how they kept Santa alive for me.

My Mom had other people write the gift tags for me, so the handwriting didn’t match.

At least twice that I know of, Daddy went up on the roof on Christmas Eve and stomped around, ringing jingle bells to convince me Santa was HERE.

One year we visited my grandma out of state and were snowed in by a blizzard over Christmas. Someone convinced a family friend to brave the snow banks and cold in a Santa suit to come to grandmas house. Arriving “magically”, he explained that because of the storm, he had begun his round-the-world deliveries earlier than usual, and that because of the cold he’d hoped the family in this house would be kind enough to let him warm himself in front of the fire before he resumed his task.

Y’all, I gave Santa Claus hot cocoa and cookies! I MET SANTA. FOR REAL.

I think you can understand why, with parents like this, I believed in my heart that Santa was real well into junior high school (even though I said otherwise to my friends – I didn’t want to seem pathetic or lame)!

The time from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve is truly my favorite time of the year. Twinkle lights just make me happy, y’all.

So for today, I’m not going to think about the ways FPIES and FructMal have prohibited my creation of a similar sort of Christmas for my kiddos. I’m not going to think about how we plan to approach the Santa thing a little differently than my parents did.

I’m not going to think about any of that, because this is the last year that my kids might not remember every detail about Christmas, so this Christmas, none of that really matters. 

I have a whole ‘nother year to figure out how I can create a Magical Christmas for my kiddos.

Today I’m going to simply revel in the fact that Jed was thrilled to get to MEET SANTA (at the Mall), that he LOVES getting presents, that he has spent half his awake hours playing adoringly with the Christmas tree since we put it up…and I will take comfort in the fact that because Christmas is so strong in my heart (thanks to my parents) that despite FPIES and FructMal I WILL find a way to build on Jed’s three-year-old joy to create truly Magical Christmas’s for him and Zac in the years to come.

~MERRY CHRISTMAS, Y’ALL!~ 

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I’m going to take a couple days off from blogging to spend time with my family. See you in a few days! Have a wonderful Christmas!!

Ambiguity Stinks

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I just have to state for the record that one thing that really stinks about FPIES is the complication factor.

The last week we’ve been confused about the carrot trial on Zac. He has definitely had an acidic diaper rash and poo full of mucous, he has screamed in pain when trying to change his diaper, he has been clingy at times and cranky at others, he has refused sleep at times and passed out at other times that are atypical for him, and he has been completely difficult to read.

We’ve ruled out an ear infection, a throat infection, and discovered he is teething horribly.

Just when I start to suspect it IS the carrots, he screams and gets uber-excited to eat the carrots. Just when I start to suspect is ISN’T the carrots, he has a diaper full of carrots that burns his butt and makes him scream in pain.

I just don’t know what to think.

Compounding the issue is the fact that for the last three days Jed seems to be suffering from some kind of stomach bug. He’s had diarrhea; so much so that we have gone completely back to diapers because the trauma for Jed of having diarrhea in the potty was too great to witness, let alone force him to endure.

Yesterday he informed Darrel and me twice that his tummy hurt and we needed to “go see the doctor so the doctor can fix” him. Today, by 10:00 a.m. he’d already so informed me three times.

But yesterday and today he has eaten like a starving piggy, drunk a TON of water, plays, giggles, bounces, and otherwise acts perfectly fine.

I’d be willing to say that my boys are both suffering from a mild stomach bug, if I were a normal mother. I’d push liquids, encourage rest, and keep a close eye on them both. End of story.

FPIES confuses things, though.

Jed, clearly, is suffering from some kind of stomach bug. But is Zac? I don’t know!

The only thing to do is to keep moving forward. We’re going to pull the carrots for a few days (again – it’ll take forever to finish this food trial at the rate we’re going!) to see if his symptoms clear up and if so, we’ll begin the trial again.

I wish we didn’t have to spend so much time playing “If…Then…”, but FPIES makes us play that guessing game over everything we encounter as parents.

So if you’ll excuse me, I have a toddler that wants to cuddle and a baby that seems to NEED ME and I’m going to go be Mommy to my sick(?) boys today.

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Does FPIES confuse your symptoms? What do you use to determine regular sick versus FPIES reaction?

Frugal Friday – Homemade Quinoa Milk

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So a couple weeks ago, my dear friend Marc called me up one afternoon just bursting with excitement! He’d been watching Dr. Oz and heard the doctor talk about quinoa MILK.

Marc remembered that quinoa was the only safe food for Zac, and didn’t know if I knew you could make it into milk.

I didn’t.

So I was grateful for the call!

I went to the internet, and Google provided this lovely recipe for quinoa milk that looked pretty good from Alison at Omnomally.

Shortly after this, a new friend from the FPIES boards sent me a message: had I considered making quinoa milk? She’d found some in the store and immediately thought of us. (We really do have some awesome friends, you know?) Then she sent me a link to another quinoa milk recipe, and it was very similar to the original one I’d found.

It seemed like destiny: I was going to make quinoa milk!

So, I did.

It’s so ridiculously easy, I can’t believe it. I will make this every day, no problem!

Here’s what you do:

Cook up a bunch of quinoa seeds. (Some brands are pre-rinsed, others aren’t. If yours isn’t pre-rinsed, do the whole rinsing process first, of course!)

Take one cup of the cooked quinoa, put it in your blender, and add two cups of safe water.

Quinoa and water ready to become milk

Quinoa and water ready to become milk

Turn it on!

Process until smooth.

The frothy finished product.

The frothy finished product.

Now, here’s the part where having a Vitamix will make all the difference in a recipe.

If you have a Vitamix (or other high speed blender), at this point just pour out the milk into a jar and put it in the fridge to cool.

I didn’t know this about the Vitamix, so I did the rest of the steps as outlined in the inspiration posts.

I took a nut bag, draped it over a glass container, and poured the quinoa milk through the nut bag to strain it.

Nut bag draped over my pitcher...

Nut bag draped over my pitcher…

And straining the milk into the pitcher!

And straining the milk into the pitcher!

When I was done, I turned the nut bag inside out to scoop out any of the “pulp” from the inside and…nothing. Nada. There was a tiny  bit of quinoa pulp on the inside of the bag, but not enough to mess with cleaning a whole nut bag for!

Obviously, if you don’t have a high-powered blender, you’ll need to strain your milk. If you have a Vitamix, though, you get a pass. Just pour and drink!

Delicious, homemade quinoa milk!

Delicious, homemade quinoa milk!

Do you know what is so exciting about this recipe? I finally get to taste test one of my creations!!

The verdict?

Well, Darrel and I drank some while it was freshly made and warm. It was sort of…meh. Borderline bad.

I stuck the whole pitcher in the fridge for a bit, and when it was icy cold I went back to try again. Better!

Then I added some stevia to mine and WOW! It tastes like a creamy milkshake!

Thick, rich, and creamy. Yum!!

Thick, rich, and creamy. Yum!!

Most recipes I read said to blend the quinoa seeds and then add water to thin it out to a regular milk substitute consistency. I’d planned to do that, honest; there just wasn’t room in my blender bowl for much more liquid, so I thought I’d pour it directly into the pitcher.

Then I forgot to do it before the taste test.

So my first taste of this was at a 1 c. quinoa:2 c. water ratio. VERY thick, very creamy. Very much like regular old cow milk, in my mind!

I had to leave it completely unflavored for Zac, of course, as he doesn’t have anything else safe I can put in it. I also watered it down for him a bit. He doesn’t seem to like it as much as just plain old water, at this point, but I’m really excited for the discovery of quinoa milk!

(If we can just manage to pass two little old ingredients (a fat/oil and a starch) I could make a macronutritionally complete homemade formula for him to help supplement my pumped milk when I return to work! We’re 1/3rd of the way there!)

Back to this milk, though: I may try watering it down a bit for some cereal milk consistency, but I rather like it thick and creamy for drinking through a straw. It makes me feel like I’m getting a milkshake, and I kind of like that.

Oh, and how is this a Frugal Friday tip?

Because it’s DIRT CHEAP.
*Note: I originally said each box of quinoa provided 3 cups of seeds. It’s actually 1.5 cups per box, so I corrected the numbers to reflect that.

I looked on Amazon (as I’ve never seen quinoa milk in my local stores) and got some data for this nifty little chart:

Store Bought Quinoa Milk

Store Bought Cashew Milk

Homemade Quinoa Milk (thick)

Homemade Quinoa Milk (thinned)

Price per ounce

20¢

5.6¢

3.4¢

Price per carton (32 ounces)

$6.40

$2.56

$1.81

$1.08

That’s based on my determination that a box of quinoa seeds, uncooked, usually yields about 1.5 cups of uncooked seeds. So I get 3 one half cup servings of quinoa seeds out of that, and those boxes usually cost $4.08. (They’re measured by weight, so slight variations can occur.)

Granted, that doesn’t add in the costs of any extras you might put in your milk: maple syrup, vanilla, spices, etc. Still, I think it’s a substantial price difference!

Not to mention, here’s what you’ll find in most packaged quinoa/cashew/almond milks: organic evaporated cane juice, calcium carbonate, gellan gum, natural vanilla flavor with other natural flavors, sea salt, vitamin A palmitate, vitamin D2, D-alpha tocopherol (vitamin E), non-GMO Canola oil, calcium phosphate, magnesium phosphate, locust bean gum, guar gum, vitamin A acetate, vitamin D-3, selenium, zinc oxide, folic acid, vitamin b-12.

Sure, they’re adding vitamins to the products to make them ‘healthier’, but what are those vitamins made of? Are they bio-available? Who knows!

Homemade quinoa milk:

  • Cheaper (by far!) 
  • Cleaner (only add whole ingredients you believe in)
  • Safer for corn-allergic people (almost all of those vitamins are likely made with corn ingredients) 
  • No gums or weird thickeners (less intestinal aggravation)
  • Safe, natural sweeteners (if you so choose) 

 

BETTER.

HOPE THAT HELPS!

Homemade Quinoa Milk (Frugal Friday)
 
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Make your own delicious quinoa milk; drink healthier and save money!
Author:
Recipe type: beverage
Serves: 2 quarts
Ingredients
  • ½ c. uncooked quinoa
  • up to 7 cups of safe water
  • any extras you like: vanilla, maple syrup, spices
Instructions
  1. Cook quinoa; place ½ c. quinoa in a pan with 1 c. water and cook according to package instructions.
  2. Put the cooked quinoa (1 cup) in a blender with 2 cups of water, add any extras you would like (to taste, of course) and blend until smooth.
  3. If you have a high-powered blender (Vitamix or similar), you can skip to step #6 now. Otherwise…
  4. Strain the milk through a nut bag into a pitcher.
  5. Turn the nut bag inside out, scrape out the pulp and save it in a container for other uses (added to a smoothie, to a muffin recipe, to your breakfast cereal, etc.)
  6. Add as much or as little water to make the milk the consistency you need.
  7. Place the pitcher in the fridge and let chill.
  8. Enjoy your delicious, CHEAP milk alternative beverage!

 

Have you ever made quinoa milk? Would you be willing to try it?

Fructose & FPIES Follies

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fol·ly  (fl)

n.pl.fol·lies

1. A lack of good sense, understanding, or foresight.
2.a. An act or instance of foolishness: regretted the follies of his youth.

    b. A costly undertaking having an absurd or ruinous outcome.

We’ve been having an awful lot of fun here, lately.

Yes, I’m being sarcastic.

Let’s start with Zac:

First of all, he does not have an ear infection! Thank God! Apparently the symptoms he exhibited – clinginess, extreme comfort nursing, flicking his ear, lack of energy, crankiness, lack of appetite, and generally being miserable were a combination of two things: mild FPIES reaction and SEVERE teething pain.

The doctor looked at his ears and throat and said they were both fine, but commented on how swelled up his gums were where two of his teeth (on his left side, the side with the ear he kept flicking) were trying to pop through.

Make me feel like a newbie mom, whydoncha?

In all fairness, with the potential FPIES reaction it was easy to confuse symptoms and jump to conclusions. So we’ll chalk this one up as “children make you INSANE” and move on.

He DID have blood in his diaper yesterday. A little bit, but still, it was there. The rest of the day and this morning, though, he’s been fine.

Like “yesterday never happened I’m just fine, Mama” fine.

Maybe we’re being insane (we are), maybe we’re rushing things (we are – we’re desperate), but we went ahead and gave him more carrots again today.

He wolfed them down and was still hungry enough to beg for quinoa!

That’s good! Hopefully the carrots were never the problem.

That’s potentially bad! With any grace, he licked some corn juice off his fingers before we got to him (if he’d eaten a whole kernal, I KNOW there would have been more of a reaction!) and the beef broth and salt didn’t affect him in the slightest. But the potential for one of those two to be the culprit is still too high for my tastes.

After all, I KNOW he ate beef broth and salt. We don’t know if he got any corn.

So those are our FPIES follies. It’s all absurd.

On to Jed:

Last week I bought some organic, real food, health food store candy canes to decorate our tiny little tree with.

Jed promptly hid behind the tree and ate 7 of them in one sitting.

One problem: they had evaporated cane syrup in them. SYRUP, not sugar.

And Jed goes WONKY from cane syrup.

I’d planned to let him have the candy canes, but doled out one per day. Never did I imagine him eating 7 at once! (He would have eaten them all, too, if Darrel hadn’t caught him!)

We were prepared for the worst: mule-headed belligerence, temper tantrums worthy of an Oscar, mood swings like a 14 year old girl, undigested food in his diapers, light colored loose poop that goes everywhere.

Instead, we got a mildly cranky Jed with one slightly looser poop.

It was SUCH a mild reaction, it could have just been a “rough day” for a 3 year old.

We talked it over and realized that we’ve become so effective at emptying Jed’s bucket of fructose and keeping it empty that even an overload like he got wasn’t enough to give him a full blown reaction.

We were quite pleased with ourselves!

Then Jed spent the better part of three days between both sets of grandparents, and has come home less well-behaved than before he left, with a poop today that was light colored, loose, and had strings of bloody mucous in it.

So I’m sure he got a hold of some food he shouldn’t have eaten, and I’m sure the grandparents, while not completely indulgent by any means, let him get away with stuff we don’t let him get away with.

So now we get to “re-train” and “re-empty” Jed.

I just really hope the bloody mucous was a fluke of some kind, and not a sign that he got some dairy.

My basic understanding of how this works for MSPI and FPIES is that there are little “memory cells” that get left behind after a reaction.

Those cells just hang out in the gut waiting to see if the offending protein shows up again; if it does, they immediately signal an alarm and the body begins to fight the food.

Those memory agents are, as I understand it, regenerated after somewhere between 18-24 months. So to be safe, if my kids react to a food, we should avoid that food for at least 2 years before re-trialing it.

Jed’s last accidental dairy exposure was two Thanksgivings ago. So I had scheduled a dairy trial for Christmas 2014 to see if we could add dairy in to his diet.

If he was exposed in the last few days, well…our timer has been re-set.

Sigh.

(For the record, grandparents-who-read-this, I’m not accusing or angry about a possible dairy – or any fructose – exposure. He’s a sneaky little goose and besides, after the week I had, I Get It.)

So that’s the FructMal follies. More absurdities!

It’s not “Fa-la-la-la-la” at our house.

It’s more like “Fo-la-la-la-lollies”.

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Do you ever feel like your kiddos food issues are just a series of follies, too?

The Aftermath

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Thank you, everyone, for your wonderful words of prayer and comfort yesterday.

I don’t know how we’d endure if we didn’t have such great support.

Today’s post is going to be brief. Yesterday I was much too scattered and bummed to write anything worthwhile, and today, well…

By 10:00 am, Darrel and I were thinking we had maybe dodged an FPIES bullet. Zac seemed fine!

Sure, he’d comfort nursed a TON yesterday, and sure, he’d not wanted to eat as much the rest of yesterday, and sure, he’d been very clingy all day, but he slept fine and his spirits were good.

Maybe he hadn’t eaten any corn. Maybe the beef broth and salt didn’t have any effect.

By 11:00 am, though, we’d had two unpleasant developments.

First, we realized he’d been playing with his ear a lot. And he felt warm. And he didn’t want to eat; he only wanted to cuddle on the couch watching “Mary Poppins”.

Ruh-roh.

Zac never tugs at his ear the way most babies do when they get an ear infection. He only occasionally taps or flicks his ear.

But he always gets a little warm and clingy, and much more low-key than typical.

Sigh. So I called the doctor and we’re about to leave to have his ears checked out.

The second development was a diaper that tested positive for trace blood.

That has nothing to do with an ear infection. That’s just an FPIES reaction.

Guess we didn’t dodge a bullet after all.

So carrots are still on hold. I still feel like dirt. And we are on our way to the doctor.

Thanks for the prayers, and keep ’em coming, please!